7 Conversation Sins:

• taking too long to explain something,

• using filler and boring fluff content,

• repeating yourself,

• taking too long to hit the punch line,

• not having a punch line at the end of a small ramble,

• not pausing at interaction points to let her talk,

• not having an obvious ending to what you’re saying, so a woman picks up on the cue that it is HER TURN to speak in the conversation,

In the initial phase of the conversation, talk in short-bursts that all have punch lines in the end. Going on a lengthy monologue, without receiving conversational feedback from her is weird and you may lose her attention span. Be self-amused. Talk about things that you enjoy.

Anticipate times when she is most likely to respond and pause during those moments to allow her invest into the conversation because (1) her investment in you is more important than you generating attraction, and, (2) a conversation should be a two-way street.

Advanced notes:

Time in the field will tell you proper ratios. An ideal conversation is roughly a 50/50% divide – albeit at the start of pickup it will be around 80/20% where you are doing the majority of the talking. The reason why you are doing most of the talking initially is because you approached her (hence, the burden of carrying the conversation is on you) and she may not be in a social mode yet.

THE SEQUENCE:

• The seducer says something and then ends at a provoking moment to allow a woman to contribute to the conversation.

• He holds eye-contact.

• He then waits for the woman to say something back.

• Often at this point the woman will respond (giving into the social pressure) but if she doesn’t seem likely to contribute on her own initiative at this point of the interaction (providing a body-language cue such as averting her gaze) then the seducer will either move on to his next conversational point, or ask a question.

If all you do is chase a woman then you don’t structure an opportunity for a woman to chase you. By creating space, you allow a woman to invest in you! The more she invests in you, the more she rationalize that you are worth investing in. When one creates a vacuum then women will fill it with their efforts.

LAW #4: CREATE A VACUUM.

Women are like cats. They don't chase strings they already have. They chase strings that could disappear. Women are more MOTIVATED BY FEAR OF LOSS than promise of gain. Give value; then create a vacuum, so that invests back by giving you value. For a relationship to be strong there needs to be a constant exchange of value - to the point where both members are better off together than alone.

Technique #4: Utilize Calculated Pauses.

Use the “pregnant pause”. When story-telling or sharing your opinion on a matter PAUSE at the right moments (as soon as you say something particularly edgy) to allow her to contribute back to the conversation. Create opportunities for the girl to contribute to the conversation. Use eye-contact to reinforce the expectation that it’s her turn to talk.

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